Have you ever lost money to a scam and were so embarrassed you didn’t tell anyone or even report it because you felt really stupid?

Well, you weren’t stupid. You were the victim of a sophisticated cybercrime and what you may have been feeling is called “fraud shame” – where people feel it is their fault for being the victim of a cybercrime, even though the real person responsible is the criminal perpetrating it.

As a society, we have a strong tendency to blame the victim of scams and fraud; focusing on something the victim didn’t know or didn’t do rather than focusing on the criminal and the crime. According to an AARP report on victim shaming, the vast majority of Americans (85%) think that fraud can happen to anyone, and yet a majority (53%) also believe that fraud victims are culpable and blameworthy.

But victims don’t intend to send many to criminals. As Kathy Stokes, Director of Fraud Prevention Programs for AARP points out, “They were trying to help a beloved grandchild get out of trouble, or trying to build generational wealth.”

Fraud shame affects us all. Besides adding insult to injury, fraud shame can cause victims not to report that they were the victim of a crime. Crimes go unreported, criminal activity is not addressed, and we are more at risk.

Although there is the perception older adults are more gullible, scams affect everyone regardless of their age, education, or technological proficiency – but differently.

In 2021, older adults were about five times more likely to report losing money on tech support scams than younger adults; and twice as likely to report losing money on a prize, sweepstakes, or lottery scam. But not surprisingly, younger adults were over four times more likely to report a loss on an investment scam such as bogus cryptocurrency investment schemes than older adults; and five times more likely to lose money on job scams.

So what can we do to fight fraud shame? A couple suggestions.

First, if someone close to you tells you they are the victim of fraud, don’t blame them! Instead, provide support, and help them reach out to the authorities to report the crime.

Second, explain to them how to stay safe online: knowing the different types of cybercrimes such as phishing; using a long, unique password; installing the latest software updates; and using two-step authorization. The National Cybersecurity Alliance at https://staysafeonline.org/resources/ is an excellent source to find tools to stay safe online.

It’s becoming harder to identify scams. (Is my computer really being attacked by a virus? Do I need to call the phone number flashing on my screen? HELP!)  And it’s not going to get any easier with artificial intelligence! But if fewer folks felt ashamed and reported crimes; and more folks knew how to identify and avoid cybercrimes, the Internet would be more secure and safer for all of us.

BRAIN TEASE: An orchestra of 120 players takes 40 minutes to play Beethoven’s 9th symphony. How long would it take 60 players to play the symphony?

The name of the game show where four panelists must determine guests’ occupations by asking only “yes” or “no” questions was What’s My Line. I received correct answers from Elaine Kirby, Carol Earl, Jess Birge, Dave Lutgens, Marny Weting, Donna Mollet, Keith Clymer, Doug Nelson, Pat Evenson-Brady, Rhonda Spies, Diana Weston, Nancy Higgins, and this week’s winner of a quilt raffle ticket Lana Tepfer whom I forgot the last two weeks! So Lana would have some company, I also missed Bruce Johnson.

I remember this camera when it first came out because you could develop a picture in less than 60 seconds! For this week’s “Remember When Question”, what was the name of the first commercially viable easy-to-use instant camera released in 1972 and invented by American scientist Edwin Land? Email your answer to www.mcseniorcenter@gmail.com, leave a message at 541-296-4788, or drop it off with the SX-70 model.

Well, it’s been another week, pondering all of life’s intangibles. Until we meet again, you know it’s autumn when the alarm goes off and it’s still dark!

“Experience is a wonderful thing. It enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.”  Franklin Jones

Nutritious home-delivered and in-person meals are available at noon Monday through Friday unless otherwise noted.

Seniors of Mosier Valley (541-980-1157) – Mondays and Wednesdays; Hood River Valley Adult Center (541-386-2060); Sherman County Senior and Community Center (541-565-3191); The Dalles Meals-on-Wheels (541-298-8333)

For meal sites in Washington, call Klickitat County Senior Services – Goldendale office (509-773-3757) or the White Salmon office (509-493-3068); Skamania County Senior Services (509-427-3990).

Answer: Eighty minutes is the most common answer, but is still wrong. A song is forty minutes no matter how many people are playing it.

How many times have you heard, “You aren’t going to see me at a Senior Center. They are just for “ol”d people!” Maybe you even have thought that. Sadly, they are missing out on all that senior centers have to offer.

There are over 10,000 senior centers across the country responding to the diverse needs and interests in their communities and serving as community focal points for older adults. To encourage more people to visit their local center and celebrate their contributions, September has been proclaimed National Senior Center Month.

So, this month if you haven’t already, take the time to visit your local center and discover what it has to offer. Every senior center is different, but you’ll always find opportunities to make new friends; and enjoy a healthy meal for just a donation – if you’re 60 or older. (Another advantage of getting older!)

You may also find exercise classes: Strong People, Tai Chi, or chair Yoga (same benefits of yoga but I don’t have to struggle to get up off the floor!); live music, and new learning opportunities: Medicare counseling, AARP Smart Driver classes, Senior Planet technology classes, health presentations, and book clubs.

But if you don’t find something you like, start a class! There may be others who like to play your favorite card game (anyone know how to play Euchre?). Or start an art class, a walking club, or share your travel adventures. Many activities at senior centers were started by someone like you.

Senior Centers support healthy aging by providing opportunities for older adults from the frail to the most active to explore new experiences, connect with others, and volunteer. Research has shown that senior center participants have higher levels of health, social interaction, and overall life satisfaction compared to their peers who do not participate in a senior center.

Senior Centers are not just for “old” people. Instead, think of them as a social club, recreational center, learning hub, and cafeteria all offered in one place – and where you’ll find folks who are active, fun-loving, and role models for living gracefully.

If you are a grandparent raising grandchildren, you are particularly encouraged to attend the next “Powerful Tools for Caregivers” class which offers caregivers the strategies and tools to better take care of themselves when taking care of others.

The six-week class will be offered virtually on Thursdays, September 28th through November 2^nd from 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm. The class is free thanks to the support of the Providence Children’s Health Foundation and their generous donors. To register call 971-415-5349 or email swindells@providence.org

Brain Tease.

When I was looking in the mirror, I tried to read the artists printed on my new Motown t-shirt. It wasn’t easy! See how well you can do reading the mirror images of these seven Motown artists.

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L.S./M.F.T. (Lucky Strikes Means Fine Tobacco) was found on a package of Lucky Strike cigarettes.  I received correct answers from Sandy Haechrel, Diana Weston, Doug Nelson, Marny Weting, Dave Lutgens, Keith and Marlene Clymer, Pat Kelly, Ken Jernstedt, Donna Mollet, Anna Bolton, Kim Birge, Rhonda Spies, and Steve Nybroten who’s this week’s winner of a quilt raffle ticket.

There were many classic game shows in the 50s and 60s including I’ve Got a Secret (1952 – 1967) hosted by Garry Moore and Groucho Marx’s You Bet Your Life (1950–1961). For this week’s “Remember When Question”, what was the name of the game show where four panelists must determine guests’ occupations by asking only “yes” or “no” questions – and where the question “Is it bigger than a bread box?” was first used by Steve Allen? Email your answer to www.mcseniorcenter@gmail.com, leave a message at 541-296-4788, or drop it off with a picture of the moderator John Daly and the most frequent panelists: Dorothy Kilgallen, Arlene Francis, Bennett Cerf, and Hal Block.

Well, it’s been another week, trying to remember where I left off. Until we meet again, as Dick Van Dyke sang in Bye Bye Birdie, “Put on a happy face.”

“That’s the way I look at things – if you focus on the worst-case scenario and it happens, you’ve lived it twice. It sounds like Pollyanna-ish tripe but I’m telling you – it works for me.”   Michael J. Fox

Nutritious home-delivered and in-person meals are available at noon Monday through Friday unless otherwise noted.

Seniors of Mosier Valley (541-980-1157) – Mondays and Wednesdays; Hood River Valley Adult Center (541-386-2060); Sherman County Senior and Community Center (541-565-3191); The Dalles Meals-on-Wheels (541-298-8333)

For meal sites in Washington, call Klickitat County Senior Services – Goldendale office (509-773-3757) or the White Salmon office (509-493-3068); Skamania County Senior Services (509-427-3990).

Answer: The answers are in the mirror.

Are you ever frustrated that after reading an article, you try to explain it and you can’t remember what you read?  Or you get halfway through a novel and suddenly you realize you have read it before!

Many of us use our leisure time to read whether it is an article in this newspaper, on the Internet, or that bestseller you just borrowed from the library. And with so much information at our fingertips, it’s even more important to remember what you read even if you aren’t studying for a history class final – thank goodness!

To better comprehend and remember, here is a quick summary of “Eight Tips To Remember What You Read” by Dr. Bill Klemm, professor of Neuroscience at Texas A&M University. (You can read the entire article on the SharpBrains website.)

1) Know Your Purpose

Ask yourself, “Why am I reading this?” Continuously checking how the purpose is being fulfilled helps you stay on task and focus on the more relevant parts of the material.

2) Skim First

Skimming first can help you identify what is important to focus on in your reading. But it shouldn’t be your default mode of reading – as I keep telling myself.

3) Get the Mechanics Right

You may remember from your English classes that you shouldn’t read word by word but focus on several words at a time which can increase your speed and comprehension.

4) Be Judicious in Highlighting and Note Taking

Okay, I’m reading a book; highlighting all the important points, and then realize I’ve highlighted the entire page!

Try to highlight the few key points to act as your reminder cues. And don’t get so focused on highlighting that you don’t pay enough attention to what you’re reading.

5) Think in Pictures

I’ve previously written about how creating a picture can help you remember objects – particularly when your doctor gives you the three-word memory test! So when reading, identify the keywords and think of the associated mental images.

6) Rehearse As You Go Along

Read in short segments – a few paragraphs to a few pages – all the while thinking about and paraphrasing the meaning of what you are reading. Rehearse what you are memorizing by reconstructing the mental pictures.

7) Operate Within Your Attention Span

Paying attention is central to memorization. If you can’t concentrate, reading is a waste of time. Most of us have short attention spans – and mine is getting shorter all the time – so try not to read dense material for more than ten or fifteen minutes at a time. After each session, quiz yourself on what you just read.

8) Rehearse Soon After Reading Is Finished

When you finish reading, rehearse what you learned right away. Avoid distractions and multitasking. Again, ask yourself questions about the content of what you read and how it satisfies your purpose for reading.

Follow these eight steps if you want to better remember what you read. And for me, it’s simply to remember what I read fifteen minutes ago!

Brain Tease: You should be getting good at these lateral thinking patterns. See how you do on this one.

“Four men were fishing. The boat tipped, and every man fell into the water. Not a single man got wet. How is this possible?”

Before he went solo, Smokey Robinson sang with a group of teenage friends who recorded for Motown as the Miracles. I received correct answers from Marny Weting, Rhonda Spies, Dave Lutgens, Rose Schulz, Donna Mollett, Keith Clymer, Kim Birge, and this week’s winner of a quilt raffle ticket: Rebecca Abrams. And I’ve missed Diana Weston from way back, Donna Mollett from last week, and probably someone else this week.

In 1944, the message L.S./M.F.T. was introduced on the packages of a brand of cigarettes. For this week’s “Remember When” question, what was the name of that brand? Email your answer to www.mcseniorcenter@gmail.com, leave a message at 541-296-4788, or drop it off with an episode from the 1959 season of the Jack Benny Show.

Well, it’s been another week, moving faster but getting nowhere fast. Until we meet again, you can be an inspiration to others without even knowing it.

“Sharing tales of those we’ve lost is how we keep from really losing them.” Mitch Albom

Nutritious home-delivered and in-person meals are available at noon Monday through Friday unless otherwise noted.

Seniors of Mosier Valley (541-980-1157) – Mondays and Wednesdays; Hood River Valley Adult Center (541-386-2060); Sherman County Senior and Community Center (541-565-3191); The Dalles Meals-on-Wheels (541-298-8333)

For meal sites in Washington, call Klickitat County Senior Services – Goldendale office (509-773-3757) or the White Salmon office (509-493-3068); Skamania County Senior Services (509-427-3990).

Answer: They were married so there was not a single man to get wet.

One of my favorite songs from the ’60s was the little-known “No Regrets” written and recorded by Tom Rush. It’s about a broken relationship he had no regrets about even though it was painful.

Many feel a life well lived is one where there are no regrets about the decisions you’ve made or the words you’ve said or left unsaid.

But we all experience regret, don’t we? Some regrets may be minor such as missing a Smokey Robinson concert to something as painful as not having visited a friend I had promised to see before she passed away.

In her New York Times article, “Regret Is Painful. Here’s How to Harness It”, Jancee Dunn shares insights from her conversation with Daniel Pink, author of “The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward.”

Daniel Pink found that regret, a negative emotion you feel when you wish you had done something differently, falls into four main themes: failing to reach out to others; lapses in moral judgment; incremental choices that result in big consequences — like smoking or working too much; and holding back when we should have been bolder.

Those regrets can hurt but as Pink points out they are also a source of insight and growth. By thinking about our regrets, we “can clarify what we value most in life.” How can we make that happen? When dealing with regret Pink suggests we look inward, outward, and forward.

When looking inward, realize when we make mistakes, we often treat ourselves more harshly than we would treat anybody else. Instead of punishing yourself, try to look inward and talk to yourself the way you would a loved one: kind, generous, and forgiving.

When looking outward, Pink suggests confiding in someone you trust or forming a circle of friends where you can share your regrets. This can take away the hurt by realizing that everyone has regrets and you aren’t the only one.

Then look forward by asking yourself what lessons can I draw from this regret? And how can I apply them to my life going forward? Start with determining if you can still do something about it such as by being less judgmental, spending more time with close friends, or speaking up about something you feel strongly about.

In those cases when you can’t go back and you’re burdened with regret about an action you did or did not take, reframe your regret by at “least-ing” it – switching your thinking from “if only” to “at least.” For example, I can tell myself I may have missed seeing Smokey Robinson perform, but at least I can download his songs – and I saved the $150 for concert tickets!

There will always be times when we wish we could start over. But although regret can be painful, we can use it by looking inward, outward, and forward to appreciate what is important in our lives.

BRAIN TEASE: These may be too easy, but I’ll let you find out.

1.)   A man shaves several times a day but still has a beard. Who is he?

2.)   What disappears as soon as you say its name?

3.)   What can you hold in your left hand, but never in your right?

The band known for smashing guitars and writing the first rock opera Tommy was The Who. I received correct answers from Marny Weting, Rebecca Abrams, Dave Lutgens, Rose Schulz, Steven Woolpert, Keith Clymer, Pat Evenson-Brady, and Jess Birge this week’s winner of a quilt raffle ticket. From the weeks before I missed Jean Harmon, Steven Woolpert, and Rose Schulz.

I mentioned Smokey Robinson, an early songwriter and singer for Motown Records who is still recording and performing at the age of 83! But before he went solo, he sang with a group of teenage friends who recorded many top hits including “The Tears of a Clown”. For this week’s “Remember When” question, what was the name of this group? Email your answer to www.mcseniorcenter@gmail.com, leave a message at 541-296-4788, or drop it off with a picture of Hitsville U.S.A.

Well, it’s been another week, and glad to be back in the Gorge. Until we meet again, too often I find out I don’t know what I always thought I knew.

“People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.” Winnie-the-Pooh

Nutritious home-delivered and in-person meals are available at noon Monday through Friday unless otherwise noted.

Seniors of Mosier Valley (541-980-1157) – Mondays and Wednesdays; Hood River Valley Adult Center (541-386-2060); Sherman County Senior and Community Center (541-565-3191); The Dalles Meals-on-Wheels (541-298-8333)

For meal sites in Washington, call Klickitat County Senior Services – Goldendale office (509-773-3757) or the White Salmon office (509-493-3068); Skamania County Senior Services (509-427-3990).

Answers: 1.) A barber; 2.) Silence; 3.) Your right hand